Tuesday, January 18, 2005
The Guilty Bride
A great Indiebride essay on how an independent feminist gal makes her peace with wanting a big white wedding, and matching saucepans:
'The wedding is forcing us to figure out how to create an equitable division of labor in which I don't feel like an overwhelmed hausfrau and he doesn't feel like my indentured servant...
'Though our relationship is egalitarian on most counts (decision making, housework, finances), sometimes we like to play the me-Tarzan, you-Jane game. A nice afternoon for us is one in which I roast a chicken while he watches baseball, occasionally strolling into the kitchen to get a beer and smack me on the behind...
'I suppose I've proved myself capable enough in the world that I can be the girly girl at home every once in a while. Perhaps O. isn't alienating me from my true identity but bringing me closer to parts of it I denied in the past: the trusting parts, the nurturing ones...'
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A great Indiebride essay on how an independent feminist gal makes her peace with wanting a big white wedding, and matching saucepans:
'The wedding is forcing us to figure out how to create an equitable division of labor in which I don't feel like an overwhelmed hausfrau and he doesn't feel like my indentured servant...
'Though our relationship is egalitarian on most counts (decision making, housework, finances), sometimes we like to play the me-Tarzan, you-Jane game. A nice afternoon for us is one in which I roast a chicken while he watches baseball, occasionally strolling into the kitchen to get a beer and smack me on the behind...
'I suppose I've proved myself capable enough in the world that I can be the girly girl at home every once in a while. Perhaps O. isn't alienating me from my true identity but bringing me closer to parts of it I denied in the past: the trusting parts, the nurturing ones...'
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